Doing what you like instead of what you *want* to like
It’s one of those life lessons we’re taught in elementary school – be yourself – but somehow, at 29, I’m feeling a familiar pressure to like certain things just because my friends like them.
I read The Happiness Project a couple months ago and the author wrote about the difference between doing things you like and doing things you want to like. Which even now, sounds stupidly simple. Her example was that she preferred staying in to going out. She really wanted to like socializing all night, but when it came down to it, she preferred to park it on the couch with a book and enjoy a quiet night in.
I’ve found myself thinking about this a lot lately. I’m single, childless and in my 20s and part of me wishes I enjoyed gallivanting all over town and getting smashed – it sounds fun and I enjoy a night out occasionally, but I find that I’m most happy at home, working or reading.
I’ve found myself having to explain my choices to friends and actually felt bad for my preferences – like I’m lame or boring or a hermit if going out and raging every weekend isn’t at the top of my priority list.
So I’ve been reminding myself it’s OK to like what I like and I should be happy with my choices even if others think I should like something else.
Here’s what I really, truly like: reading a book a week, organizing my spreadsheets & editorial calendar, cooking a fancy dinner, working while watching a whole TV series (Weeds, Parenthood, Battlestar Galactica, SATC, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad), Boss Business Lady brunches, searching for costume inspiration and hour-long stretching sessions.
What do you like?01.02.13 in life