How I Made The Escape

To take advice from one of my favorite bloggers who recently wrote a piece called “Let’s not pretend it’s always easy,” I wanted to talk a little (err…a lot) about how I was able to leave my corporate day job.
It can seem, on the internets, that lots of bloggers create a side business and then just up and quit their jobs. And maybe some of them do. Maybe some of them have a trust fund or immediate success or a husband paying all the bills, but my guess is that most of them put in a lot of hours before they left the cube for a creative job.
I don’t have a trust fund, immediate success or a husband, I only had a job I didn’t love in the least and a whole lot of motivation to leave.
I started planning to leave about a year ago. In September I put up a giant white board and wrote out eight months of goals for my design business, my shop, blog stats, aerial classes and shows under the heading ESCAPE PLAN. I picked May for my escape because in figuring out how much money I would need to make in order to leave, the increase in revenue month-to-month was a little crazy, but not insane.
I worked toward my goal every day. Whether it was going through song choices for a show, building a new templates, responding to potential clients, creating spreadsheets for class. I was 100 percent focused on where I was headed. I visualized putting in my two weeks and driving out of that parking lot for the last time (yelling with joy) over and over and over.
And a lot of times it was really, really difficult. I was taking on an enormous amount of work and I was afraid that if I stopped moving for a second my dream would be compromised. I spent quite a few nights in a ball on the couch crying my eyes out, completely overwhelmed, while Slayer climbed all over me trying to lick my face. And I had multiple conversations about how I was “falling apart, taking on too much, and everything is a mess” with a good friend who basically told me “shut up, your life is amazing, keep working.” As much as I didn’t want to hear it, it was good advice.
In March I had my yearly review with my boss and unfortunately/fortunately he was well aware of my lack of passion at work. His solution for this was, beginning in June, to have me write news stories for the site (what I did when I first started my job) and work weekends (after putting in 7 years there). This turned out to be the push I needed to leave.
In April and May we (The Weird Sisters Circus) booked nine shows, which meant more rehearsals and routines to build – I literally did not have time to be stuck in an office 40 hours a week anymore.
I tied up all the loose ends, bought a new computer, went to the dentist, worked out a budget. Then last week I told my boss I was leaving my job to run away with the circus. It was exciting and terrifying (hello mortgage!) and a leap I knew I had to take because I didn’t want to wake up in 10 years at the same job knowing I’d been so close to reaching my goal.
All of the long hours were so worth it when on Monday morning I woke up sans alarm and spent the morning eating breakfast on the deck while going through email. Then I was able to run all my errands to pick up stuff for an upcoming show and go to a fitting without having to cram everything in at the very end of my day. My new freedom hasn’t completely hit me yet, but the relief is slowing starting to seep in and so far it feels really good.
Now let’s all cross our fingers that I don’t have to write a post in a year titled “Dragging my ass back to the cube: How I completely and utterly failed at the freelance life.”
My advice to those of you currently reading this from your soul-sucking job and dreaming of a creative life…
SAVE YOUR MONEY All of it. Especially if you’re like me and are SINGLE with a MORTGAGE. Stop buying shoes, stop eating out. Do you want a new dress or do you want to leave your lame job? That’s the question I’ve asked myself on a weekly basis and, frankly, sometimes I bought the damn dress, but most of the time that little reminder was enough for me to hold onto the cash.
MAKE A BUDGET Know where your cash is flowing. Cut down all the bills you can. I canceled my cable to save $15 and changed my phone plan to save $20.
MAKE A PLAN The second I realized my job would be changing and I wasn’t going to stick around I went back to my desk, opened up a file called Escape Plan and wrote: new laptop, health insurance, Photoshop, clean office, dentist appt. What do you need to do in order to leave your job? Don’t leave it until the last minute.
If possible, CREATE MULTIPLE INCOME STREAMS I make money from freelance design, my template shop, teaching aerial and performing. If one of those comes up short one month I have three other places where I can try to make up for it. This not only helps my bank account, but saves me a bit of stress too.
If the WORST CASE SCENARIO is holding you back – mine is losing my house – then imagine it happening, what will you do? Make a plan. I would: get another job, get another roommate, build a million templates for my shop, start selling possessions. It won’t be the end of you world and you will not die from the worst case scenario. If you managed to escape the 9 to 5, then you surely have enough balls and strength to get through a lot of bad shit.
START NOW Like, immediately. There is no reason to spend another day dreaming about what you want to do and not lifting a finger to move yourself in that direction. Stop making excuses and complaining about things you CAN change and start believing in yourself and just take one step forward every day. Seriously…do it.
ALSO…I cannot say thank you enough to those of you who read my blog, bought one of my templates, hired me to design your site or just cheered me on. Each one of you has given me a little leg up on my journey and I’m truly, truly appreciative of your support. I would not have been able to do this without you <3 <3 <3
If you have any questions feel free to comment or email :)
















This makes a lot of sense! I hear you talking about working for yourself a lot, but was just wondering what exactly it was that you “do” for a living – so I dug through your archives and found this post. I like what you said about making multiple streams of income. That’s very smart and something I need to be better at. I sometimes feel like I “should” be good at just one thing and do that one thing very well, but… truthfully many things interest me and that’s probably a good thing – diversifying your income streams is a great way to not lose momentum if one of them doesn’t do as well for awhile!
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thank you so much. this was just the inspiration i was looking for. i’m happy all your hard work paid off.
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I read this several months ago when I first started following your blog, and I just had to re-read it as a reminder to work harder towards my self-employment goals. Thanks for the inspiration!
This was an awesome post that I can so relate to! I work a 9-5 desk job with weekend hours and it is so stifling! I just want to pole dance all day long, not answer emails and make spreadsheets – LOL. Thanks for the inspiring post :D
Pole dancing is definitely better than working a 9 to 5 and not a crazy thing to aspire to!
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Thank you, thank you, thank you! I needed to read this…
You’re welcome Wendy :)
Late to the game. Just discovered your site, read this, and it’s exactly what I needed to read. I’ve been half-heartedly working on my Escape Plan for about a year now but I need to step it up. Thanks for sharing your story and advice.
Omg you are my HERO! No really, you now have the professional life I dream of. I have been an aerialist for 2 years and I LOVE it, but I don’t see myself at the level of “running away with the circus” just yet. Maybe someday. And I would really love to become more internet/tech savvy and launch my own online business, but it’s all a long, slow learning process for me. How long had you been training before you started performing with The Weird Sisters? And I’m curious how you learned to be a web designer–were you self taught, or do you recommend any good ways of learning? Cheers to the good life! :)
Thanks Kaleena! I had my first paid show a little over a year after I started training. I had done a couple student showcases prior to that and then ended up getting booked to perform at an art exhibition. Here are some photos from that show http://sillygrrl.com/2011/02/23/dirty-show-photos-by-spilt-sugar/
As for web design, I’m self taught. I did a post a while ago on how to learn to code here http://sillygrrl.com/2012/02/28/your-questions-how-do-i-start-designing/
Good luck to you!
I needed to read this. I love the paragraph at the end that starts with “Start now”. My situation is totally unrelated to yours but the point is the same…. Do it. Make a plan and go for what you want. I’m glad it has worked out for you. You have awesome ambition! Thanks for this.
You’re welcome! Good luck to you :)
What a great story. And just the right push I needed right now, while I’m procrastinanting on preparing for a n interview at a freelancing position which -I hope- will help me to escape from a pretty unbearable situation as well :-)
Fuck yeah! That is awesome and comprehensive. Prepare to be my new cubicle tattoo post of freedom!
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Hi Sarah,
Here’s a back story for you. I read THIS POST, stalked around your blog for a bit, then shut my computer off and went home from work. On the tube home I thought about this post over, and over, and over again. Why did I like it so much? What really spoke to me?
I recently bought an ebook from a blogger who I really admire which is about how to start a blog (I believe it’s called Blogging 101). The problem is that the ENTIRE BOOK is about her routine of ‘coffee at 9, then writing a post,’ and ‘how to say no to big company collaborations’… just totally irrelevant to me.
And that’s what I love about this post. I just started a blog and, although I won’t be monetising it any time soon, it would be incredible if one day I could. I loved this post because rather than ‘selfishly’ talking about how easy and fabulous your life is as a full time blogger and business owner, you were honest about how hard it was. It’s so selfless the way you’ve really laid the truth out there for people.
Thanks so much. This totally made my day :)
Lizzie